We’re officially in the middle of ‘break-up season’ folks. Yep, apparently January sees more divorce applications than any other month, with those unhappy people who’ve agonisingly managed to spend the festive season and the New Year barely managing to keep it together, now secretly plotting their great escape routes before Cupid gets an opportunity to fire his arrow in time for Valentine’s Day!
Of course there are many reasons why couples break up immediately following Christmas. It could be she’s bought him a year’s membership to a premium gym, even though his ass spends 24/7 keeping that sofa on the floor. And, no matter how much she tries to preen and buff him, he’s never going to morph into Mark Wahlberg and greet her with six pack abs and hulking biceps. Then again, he could have bought her some risqué lingerie, and no matter how much he fantasises, she’s got no desire to look like a Babestation bimbo now has she?
However…and I don’t want to be the prophet of doom, but if Ireland’s Got Talent Judge, the gorgeous Denise Van Outen’s relationship with partner Eddie Boxshall goes bust, it won’t be due to those January blues, it’ll probably be due to the fact she’s given him the password to her phone, enabling him ‘to read her messages whenever he wants’. Denise says she often exchanges ‘flirty banter’ with her male friends, and she wants Eddie to be certain they aren’t ‘inappropriate’. Okay, nothing wrong with Denise’s intentions; she’s obviously happy to be open and honest with Eddie, and that’s a positive attribute. However, when she added, her partner of more than three years ‘is yet to give her the passcode to his phone’, I thought that was peculiar.
Now, while I’d imagine readers might agree with me that transparency and honesty are important traits to have in every relationship, privacy and trust are also essential and that’s why both myself and hubby don’t have access to each other’s phone, email, social media or bank passwords. We don’t need them. We’re not saddos constantly wondering who the other is texting!
Besides, when you trawl and snoop through your partner’s messages you’re not only proving how insecure you are, you’re invading their privacy and the privacy of those who’ve sent them personal information. Let me tell you, being a suspicious snoop (while normal) will not reassure you if you don’t trust your partner and secretly ferreting through his/her phone is really a sign of something more serious. You see, while it takes time for trust to build, remember that faith, that belief you once held, will disappear faster than air from a burst balloon, and having access to their personal details will not prevent infidelity.
Now while the goal of our marriage is to blend into one unbreakable unit, our individualism is extremely important to us, and when couples begin to breach certain boundaries they should know that the trust, the conviction and the respect they once held dear is now gone and it’s time to get out of Dodge for your own mental wellbeing. That said folks, if hubby asks me for my password I’ll happily give it to him, and I’ll fully expect that if I ask for his he’d immediately reciprocate …otherwise we’ll both have major problems.
Just my opinion…but…
Donald Trump is ‘a stable genius’. And, he’s ‘like, really smart’. That’s his opinion. Mine is that when a powerful, influential individual can publicly denigrate fellow human beings (allegedly) saying they come from “s**thole countries” and think it’s acceptable, it’s time to tell it like it is…POTUS is a RACIST!
Brace yourselves for peak flu pressure
‘HSE: We’re ready for flu outbreak,’ claimed The Irish Examiner’s headline last October, quoting Director General Tony O’Brien as saying “Our community healthcare organisations, and our hospital groups have been planning for this winter since before the summer”. Well you didn’t prepare fully now did you Mr. O’Brien because, as I write, while AH3N2 or ‘Aussie flu’ continues to sleigh us, another B Yamagata strain of the deadly virus is wreaking havoc; with responsibility for 60-70 percent of confirmed flu cases, but your penny-pinching organisation didn’t see fit to shield us by making available a second, expensive vaccine which could have protected us.
So tell me this… as the virus peaks, what part of confining your stocks of vaccine to the trivalent, standard flu jab is being ‘ready’? I mean, has anyone with a discernible brain cell made an accurate assumption as to how our already over-crowded A&Es would cope in the event of a major disaster, i.e. possible terror attack? Has anyone (Simon Harris and Tony O’Brien I mean you) given any consideration as to how the people of County Roscommon, (who have no A&E facilities) would survive in the event of a national emergency occurring…or do you consider us as not being worthy of receiving even the most basic of healthcare?